Please stop with me for a minute y’all.
This is a moment for celebration. For encouragement. For cheesin’…
After this post, I will have completed the Blogtember challenge with 100% success. I did it! I wrote a post for every single day on the very day that it was expected. This was no small feat which is why it gives me such great courage and excitement in tackling my next 30 day challenge (more about that on the next post).
Y’all, hear my gratitude.
30 | WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO A LARGE GROUP OF PEOPLE
If given another chance to speak to a group of people, I would want to tell people this:
SPEND MORE TIME IN SILENCE
We seem so very quick to go and do without taking more time to sit and be.
“Have you ever tried it?” I would initially ask.
I mean, really tried it. I’m talking no phone, no electronics, no work put upon you by a job or agency you’re committed to. This is the kind of silence where you can sit and really be honest with who you are.
When we keep moving and checking our social media accounts and have notifications on for every single app (or heck, even half of the apps) on our phones, it is so easy to keep ourselves surrounded with noise. So easy to keep playing old, hurtful tracks in our minds about things that have happened but ought not have the hold it does on us any longer. So easy to fill up on more junk, more distractions. And incredibly easy for us to convince ourselves that the opinions we’re sharing around the water cooler, blasting about on social media and clinging to as absolute truth isn’t being dished up and served to us by a biased media.
You can’t clear your head and get a good grasp on what you think – what you r-e-a-l-l-y think when you’re always hopping on your phone or computer to feed yourself with more stuff from out there.
Do you know what you believe? How? Who told you to believe that?
Have you taken consistent time to shut out the world (and maybe even your people) to sit in silence and really listen to your soul?
I hear you.
It’s frightening. The real us. The person we are in the deep recesses of our hearts, left to our own devices. When we sit still and are truly honest with who we are – just choose one day – we can find that we weren’t as kind to others in traffic, in line at the grocery store, when interacting with our friends who we don’t necessarily agree with or when we’re a part of spewing hateful things and then daring someone to say something to us about them.
No one is perfect.
This is why I would want to tell the people to unplug, unwind and de-stress for honest, real time with themselves. Because when we can consistently see and accept ourselves for the seemingly small wickedness in each of us, then we can better understand the people who don’t look like us, live in the same neighborhoods, have similar educations and accents; we can see a bit more of ourselves in them and be more compassionate. With them and with ourselves.
I want to get on THAT cycle. The one where the smallest, kindest, seemingly most insignificant acts of love and kindness for others truly win out because we see the same more than the different. It can only be done though, when people are willing to take the time and get quiet (and real) with themselves.
Because here’s what’s most exciting to me…
In the silence, while reflecting we gain revelations.
We see ourselves for who we really, truly are then we know we need something outside of ourselves to become better. We then seek it out, allow ourselves to be changed, to become more loving and influence others in our transformation.
I smile imagining this.
It’s simple and doable and powerful. And each of us can start today. Well, maybe not today but tomorrow or the next day, but you can do it.
What do you value from time spent unplugged and alone?